Self Improvement Tips

The Self Improvement Formula

When we think of self improvement, we automatically think of learning some esoteric and foreign discipline that we’ll require years to master and also require that we go to a very remote part of the earth and start meditating, fasting and possibly shaving our head in order to create the perfect environment for the healing energies to easily enter our body.

That is far from the truth my friend. Self improvement as many experts agree can start with a simple thing and gradually move towards more complicated ones and finally to mastery.

You can start your journey towards self improvement by paying more attention to your partner and really look into what you can do to improve your relationship. Take your partner out for dinner and start paying more attention to him/her. Try to compliment him/her on how good he/she looks. Don’t be shy to tell your partner that you are on a self improvement mission. Every time you explain to someone that you are on a mission specially self improvement they will do everything they can to help you out. You will start to see result from your effort almost immediatly.

Now that you are already on your path to self improvement, you may go ahead and also improve your relationship with your parents, your brothers and sisters and eventually you can even improve your relationship with your friends and neighbours. At some point in time during your self improvement journey, you’ll be exposed to things like Reiki, advanced energy work, Auric clearing and other disciplines from Maharishi University. Know that the learning curve should be gradual and your inner voice or your guardian angel will guide you toward the path that is good for you.

Energy healing for example is said to work where modern medecine has failed, as a matter of fact, I read a very good book by Dr Eric Pearl, called the reconnection and it teaches you how to heal others and heal yourself.

A very key point about self improvement is the spiritual growth. At this level of development, you’ll want to achieve mastery of self by developing your potential and searching for meaning, the meaning of life for instance.

Start your journey like a child who is born into this world to learn. Don’t be too obsessed with one particular thing. All the answers will be revealed to you in due time.
About The Author

Fritz Blanc

Please visit Fritz’s web site on self improvement: http://www.selfconfidence-selfesteem.info/selfimprovement/

August 24th, 2007 | Posted in Goal, Motivation, Self Esteem, Self Improvement Formula | 1 Comment

10 Sure Fire Self Esteem And Self Improvement Tips

When people talk about improving self-esteem, they usually mean self-confidence. While the two are related, they are not exactly the same. Self-esteem is all about self-worth and self-value. It’s how we see ourselves in relation to other people and our environment. It has nothing to do with vanity or conceit.

The lack of self-esteem is a major problem and has a leveling quality. Rich and poor alike are afflicted by it and people decide between happiness and unhappiness because of it. If self-esteem is an area in your life where you need improvement, here are some tips you can use to build your self-value and improve the way you see yourself:

1. Know what you want. You can’t assess where you are in your journey if you have no idea what you want to have in life. You also will not be able to judge whether you’ve been doing a good job or just so-so.

Set goals that are clear and doable. Make sure that these are things you want to do and attain, and not things your parents, family, friends and colleagues insist you ‘should’ have. Is it just the latest trends that dictate your aspirations? If so, you will never catch up and be satisfied. You can only claim your goals as your own if you recognize them as things you truly, genuinely want in your life.

2. Assess your good points. List the things that you do well and the things that make you a good person. It could be anything intelligence, a good sense of humor, good analytical ability, compassion, creativity, ability to spot trends, people skills, things that you have and recognize as an integral part of your personality and talents. No matter how low you feel in your life, these are qualities that you never lose.

3. Recognize your liabilities. Improving your self-esteem does not mean ignoring the things that make you human. To be human is to make mistakes, just do not let them keep you stuck. List your negative traits and label them as areas in your life you need to work on, areas for improvement. Treating them as downright liabilities will make them seem an unalterable feature of your life and create a feeling that you are helpless against them.

4. Build slowly but surely. Take little steps to improve your self-esteem. Big successes build upon small successes. You can’t decide to change your outlook drastically today and expect extreme results in the morning. By taking it slowly and performing well during each turn, you gradually build a solid base of achievements that will boost your self-esteem more effectively.

5. Make it a point to improve yourself daily. Whatever you do, say or think should be geared towards improving your self-esteem. Improve the way you dress, walk or talk. Take further studies to hone your knowledge and skills, learn a new language, take up cooking classes, start a new hobby. Being able to immerse yourself in worthwhile activity creates a feeling of capability and opens new opportunities for growth.

6. Keep away from people who shoot you down with snide remarks and unfair criticisms. Associate with positive people. There will always be grouches and negativists who will think nothing about giving careless opinions that make other people think unworthy of praise or recognition. If you find people who make it their life mission to belittle other people’s achievements, keep your distance. They will not contribute anything good to your life.

7. Be yourself. You’ll never improve your self-esteem if you try to live life and find acceptance as a projected mask of yourself. Pretending to be someone you’re not will fail to affirm your uniqueness and potential and will only make you sadder about your circumstance. You can’t make everyone love you, so don’t try.

8. Make other people feel good about themselves. People tend to like you more if you’re honest and pleasant. Polish your listening skills and body language to make people feel comfortable. Respond to them visibly and with interest.

You might think that this is the opposite of what you want to do to improve your self-esteem but by actually focusing your attention on other people, you create an aura of likeability that they gravitate towards, making them choose you over others. And when you are singled out as a good person who’s terrific to be with, your self-esteem grows.

9. You have the right to make mistakes. Nobody’s perfect, regardless of what you’ve heard or what popular media wants you to believe. By accepting that you will make mistakes and that it’s all right, you learn to recognize that it is a necessary process you need to go through in order for you to improve yourself.

10. Recognize that you are a unique individual with a different set of talents and that you have something to contribute. You may not be a big celebrity like Justin Timberlake, as rich as Bill Gates or as powerful as Oprah Winfrey, but your individuality makes you as important as they are, with as much right to exist and make something of yourself.

About The Author

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August 24th, 2007 | Posted in Self Esteem, Self Improvement, Self Improvement Tips | 1 Comment

Are You Motivated But Stuck?

Imagine this:

That assignment you have been waiting for has finally been handed over to you. Yet, for some reason, you find yourself literally struggling to accomplish the task. You just can’t seem to be able to get the work done. You keep spinning your wheels and making no progress. You are stuck. Meanwhile, the clock is ticking and the deadline is fast approaching. The more you try to focus on the task at hand, the more anxious and stressed out you get.

It’s not that you don’t feel motivated, you do and it’s not that the work isn’t exciting or is something that you don’t want…it is! You are aware of how important the task is and that it needs to get done as soon as possible. However, every time you try to work on it, you become confused, your eyes glaze over and your mind goes blank. You start second guessing yourself and questioning your competence. You even begin to wish for external reassurance that you are doing the right thing! Suddenly, this exciting opportunity seems like a bad idea and you feel like kicking yourself in the foot for accepting the assignment.

There is a lot riding on your commitment to complete the task and your “inner critic” swings into action reminding you of all the negative consequences awaiting you should you fail to accomplish the task. You realize that this unproductive state of affairs needs to end. Therefore, in an attempt to motivate yourself more and prevent procrastination from escalating, you silently scream to yourself…“I can do this! I can do this! I can get this done!”

Hey, wait a minute! Why are you so stressed out over something you really wanted?

What could possibly be going on?

• Fear of entering into new and uncharted territories. This is the first time you are doing something like this and you are nervous.

• Fear of not being competent enough to handle the task. You are not qualified to perform the task and you feel like an imposter.

• Not knowing what you need to do to accomplish the project. You have accepted the assignment without the necessary experience or knowledge about how to execute it.

• Fear of failing to meet the expectations. You are not confident that your work will meet the high standards of those who have assigned the task.

• Unclear expectations. You don’t know what exactly it is that is expected of you and what the final result of your actions should look like.

• Working with the wrong people. You don’t like or trust the person who has entrusted you with the task or feel that he/she is taking advantage of you.

• Working on the wrong goal. The project is appealing and you think you want it. However, it’s not in alignment with your core values and beliefs and your conscious just won’t let you get on with it.

What to do to resolve this situation.

• Collaborate with others. Get help from people who can help you complete the task. Delegate the work you can’t do on your own.

• Ask for clarification on the matters that remain unclear. How can you possibly move forward with confidence if you don’t know where you are headed?

• Ask for a deadline extension so you can get yourself together, resolve issues, get to know who it is you are working with and seek clarity or revisions on the contract if any.

• Break down the project into bite-sized pieces and schedule specific days to work on specific parts. This will prevent the overwhelm factor and make the project manageable.

• Conquer any internal fears you may have and just do it. Deal with the fear and see what happens. Learn from the experience and grow from it.

• Gather information and read books that focus on the area of your assignment. Find out how others are resolving the issues you are facing and apply those principles to your work.

• Tell the truth. Tell the person who has assigned the task that it appears that you miscalculated the magnitude of the project and that you may not be able to handle it all on your own. They may offer a solution or ask you to work on a specific area you can handle.

• Dump the project altogether if it’s causing you excessive stress and if you truly believe you can’t do it.

About the Author:

Caroline coaches women, provides strategies and solutions, motivates and helps women who desperately want to strike the match that sets them ablaze to live happier, meaningful, positive, productive and purpose driven lives. Send emails to Caroline@motivationzone.com or visit http://www.motivationzone.com

August 24th, 2007 | Posted in Goal, Motivation, Motivational, Self Help, Self Improvement Tips | No Comments

5 Easy Steps To Accomplishing Any Goal

In “Think and Grow Rich”. Napoleon Hill wrote “nothing is impossible to the person who backs DESIRE with enduring FAITH.”. Let’s simplify that by saying “nothing is impossible to the person who establishes a definite goal and truly believes that they can attain that goal.”

Once you’ve established your goal, there are two key elements necessary to accomplishing that goal, a definite date and a definite plan. I’ve learned that it’s easier to accomplish things if we break them down into small tasks. You don’t just put the whole steak in your mouth, you cut it up into small bite sized pieces. Not only does it taste better, but it’s also easier for your body to digest. You should break your goals down the same way.

Accomplishing Any Goal is just 5 Easy Steps away:

1. Establish a definite date – Set your goals in reverse. Pick a date of completion and work backward. Ex. Set a goal for the end of the month and then set short term goals for each day through the end of the month. This way you are setting short and long term goals and each day as you accomplish your short term goals you move one step closer to accomplishing your long term goal. Don’t forget to include personal development goals and days off.

2. Keep a calendar – Take the goal you set for the end of the month and write that goal in on the last day of the month. Then write down the short term goals for each day through the end of the month.

3. One at a time – Don’t try to cram everything into one day. If you try to post to your blogs, post to the forums, post classified ads, participate in groups, submit articles and work on your Squidoo lenses, etc. all in one day you’ll burn yourself out. Instead, focus on one or two things every day and then cross it off. Mark an ‘X’ on the calendar on the days you complete the scheduled tasks.

4. Set a time limit – Aim for one to two hours per day. By limiting the time you are spending and focusing on one or two tasks every day, you’ll build momentum and increase your success rate.

5. Stick with it – Stick with your schedule. Switching things up too often can get in the way of your success.

With a written plan, you’ll make accomplishing your goals easier. At the end of the month when you see more ‘X’s than empty squares, you’ll feel more accomplished. By implementing the 5 Easy Steps to Accomplishing Any Goal, you’ll find yourself making progress, building self-confidence and reaching and accomplishing your long term goals.

About the Author:

Kris Tomb is an Internet Home Business Consultant dedicated to researching home business ideas and opportunities that can help you start a new home business or grow the one you already have. To learn more, visit: CashOfTheTitans.com

August 24th, 2007 | Posted in Accomplishing Any Goal, Goal, Motivational, Self Help, Self Improvement, Self Improvement Tips | 1 Comment

The Benefits Of A Positive Attitude

Two people look at a glass which is half filled with water.

Are you the person who sees a glass that is half empty or do you see a glass that is half full?

We have a lot of choices in life. We can choose to look at things the negative way and always see the dark side of situations, or we can choose to be positive and live a happy and fulfilling life.

Why is it so important to live a positive and optimistic life?

Of course it is important to live a positive life, because it is so much more fulfilling. Optimism is synonymous with positive mood and good morale. It is also linked to athletic and academic success, to success in career and politics, to better health and longer life and moreover positive individuals are much more attractive to people than negative people are.

Now, I hear you thinking. The rates of depression and pessimism amongst people have never been higher than they are today, no matter the age group. These days it is affecting older, middle aged and younger people all the same way.

Although it is not the easiest thing in the world to change in our life, it is important to realize that being a pessimist instead of an optimist is a matter of choice. We can choose to be positive or negative.

So, experience how the self motivation tips hereunder are the key to change. Do some self motivation exercise so that after a while you acquire the necessary self motivation skills in positive thinking.

Recent studies have shown that positive people are hit by the same hard smacks in life as do the negative people. The difference is just in the way they deal with the pain that comes from these smacks.

Positive and optimistic people tend to be convinced that these moments of pain are temporary set backs and that these events are in their lives to learn a lesson from, so that they can grow, while negative and pessimistic people tend to believe that unfortunate events have an influence on everything they do in life and they are convinced that such situations will last a long, long time. Besides they either tend to think that such events take place, because they always befall to them, or because it is all their own fault.

Positive people sooner perceive these negative events as challenges or opportunities and they get stimulated by them to try harder. You will never hear them say things like: “That is always happening to me in my life and it’s never going to change” or “Everything goes wrong as usual and also this time it will definitely effect other area’s in my life”.

They believe that when such statements are actually being expressed they will work as self-fulfilling prophesies and they refuse to put this energy out ahead of them.

Positive people are hardly ever manipulative people and they appear to be far less dependent on others for their own happiness. They have the natural talent to draw people towards them, because they are surrounded with positive, balanced and cheerful energy.

Negative people tend to react strongly to stressful events, by denying that stress is bothering them. Moreover negative or pessimistic people tend to avoid dealing with their negative situations and they give up more easily when problems or difficulties arise.

Positive people on the other hand are much more stress resistant. In general positive people are perseverant and they don’t give up easily. And it is in this way that they seem to get closer to their dream or passion each step of the way.

Medical research has shown that positive people have an unusual good health and that generally they age well, without having to go through the illnesses that middle aged people tend to go through. Their bodies appear to have a much higher stamina level and a better ability to fight disease and they usually get older than the people who allow their lives to be lead by negativity.

All in all, when you are not such a positive and optimistic person, there is every reason to learn to become one.

Remember it is all a matter of choice!

Each and everyone of us hits ebb-tides in life, but it is your choice whether you want to stay in that place, or not.

Find the positive message in each negative experience. There always is one!

Finding this positive lesson will open your world again, so that you can create new focus.
By letting go of your negative ideas of your internal struggles you find new inspiration.

Get up and get back on track! Keep a positive goal ahead of you in all your endeavours and challenge yourself to see difficult situations as opportunities, instead of allowing them to bring you down.

I hope this article is of value to you and I really hope it provided you with some new insights.
The above mentioned self motivation tips are the key to your growth. Therefore I recommend you to have a good and conscious look at your life and if necessary to do some self motivation exercise in order to obtain the necessary self motivation skills.

About the Author:

Ab van Deemter (http://www.passiontogrow.com) is a Personal Growth specialist and a spiritual person, who believes in sharing his knowledge of personal perseverance. He has studied metaphysics and other holistic methods for many, many years and embarked on a life of success.

August 24th, 2007 | Posted in Positive Attitude, Self Help, Self Improvement, Self Improvement Tips | No Comments

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10 Sure Fire Self Esteem And Self Improvement Tips

Are You Motivated But Stuck?

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